Thursday, August 8, 2013
Newlyweds' Tips for A Successful Marriage
It is absolutely vital that the two of you share your future goals with each other, even before walking down the aisle. One of the most important goals to talk about is whether the two of you want to have children. It is important that you are both on the same page as far as this particular goal is concerned. If you're not on the same page it's imperative you're able to talk it through and come to an understanding or compromise before you commit to each other. You also need to discuss your long term career or business goals. Make plans and try to stick to them.
Another newlyweds' tip for a successful marriage is to try and avoid as much negativity as possible. You should never focus all of your energy on pointing out the negative aspects of the relationship. Try to spend as much time dealing with the positives as you can. If you are negative all the time, chances are your husband will be exactly the same.
Most guys aren't comfortable sharing their feelings. Try to get to understand your husband and recognize his emotional cues. This will help the two of you communicate more effectively. When it comes to you, make sure that you express your feelings directly. He will not be able to read your mind so you should not expect him to try.
Newlyweds should discuss whether they wish to have children early on in the marriage. Having children can put a strain on the relationship between the two of you but can be an immense source of pleasure. You both need to look at the pros and cons of having a family immediately: for instance you may wish to weigh up the need for building a solid foundation first before trying to start a family with the wish to have children early so that you still have time to pursue the career you want later on.
Finances are a key aspect of any marriage, but particularly so for newlyweds. Financial problems have caused many, many divorces. So this is an area you should want to get right from the outset. Be conscious of how you spend money, and try your best to spend less than you make. Start a savings plan for your future together. And once a month consider going through your finances openly and honestly.
It is also vital that you keep up your appearance. Men and women alike have a habit of letting themselves go after they have become comfortable with their partner. Don't be one of them. Even though you want to be casual when you're lounging around the house, when you go out make an effort to look good both for your husband and yourself.