Been married under 12 months? Feeling frustrated with you spouse or marriage? Wondering why you got married? Questioning why your relationship has changed for the worse since saying, "I do." If you answered yes to these questions, then you may be experiencing what is known as the newlywed blues or better yet the marriage effect. The marriage effect happens in all marital relationships. But it is how you approach it that will determine the happiness level of your partnership.

You can shake the marital blues and start experiencing great bliss and satisfaction in your life and relationship. Here are 3 tips on beating the newlywed blues:

1. Spend quality time with yourself daily. In order to experience more joy, love and happiness in your relationship, then first look within yourself. ME time allows you to get in touch with your true authentic inner love mojo which breaks through negative patterns, words, anger, worry and regret. Connect with yourself daily to recharge your love batteries. Spend 15 minutes a day as down time to reflect, rejoice and release. You can break this time into 5 minute power bursts if you are unable to find 15 minutes of uninterrupted time. Start a daily practice to tap in deeper within. Today, set aside 5 minutes to do one of these simple practices:
  • Journal about your day.
  • Daydream.
  • Sit in silence.
  • Read an inspirational scripture or passage from your favorite book.
  • Jump up and down to get your heart rate up.
  • Turn on your favorite song and rock out.
  • Recite your daily gratitude - the things that happened to you TODAY that you are grateful for.
2. Make WE time a MUST. Time together is as important as time alone. It is easy to get caught up in work, friends, family or life. Make time to deliberately get caught up in your Baby Cakes. Schedule 20-30 minutes a day to debrief and share your day with each other. Each of you can take 10-15 minutes sharing and then listening to the other. Go ahead, set a daily reminder on your smart phone to just BE with each daily. Here are a few conversation starters:
  • If your day was an animal what would it be?
  • Would you describe your day as lukewarm, cold or scolding hot?
  • Act out your day?
  • What's the one word that best describes your day?
3. Let go of the small stuff. Okay, so he left his bath towel on the bathroom floor...for the fourth time this week. So, she didn't rinse her plate off before putting it in the dishwasher. She's talking to her mom for the tenth time in the last two hours. So what??? Learn to let the little things be exactly that - little. You may share your frustration about these issues and your honey may promise to change it but the next time it happens again, you'll be in the same frustrated state. Ask yourself, "On a scale of 1-10 how important will this be in 50 years?"
It is easy to get caught up in the marriage effect and every couple experiences some level of it. Agree with your spouse to not let the newlywed blues steal your joy, happiness and love.

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